Why do many women want wealthy men?

This is a complaint I often hear from my friends. They complain that women are becoming more “materialistic,” as they themselves put it, every day. But if we stop to reflect, this controversy is not so simple. In the past, men were providers, heads of the family, authorities in the household. With the evolution of women, the growth of female labor in the job market, and the increasing participation of women in artistic, political, cultural, scientific, and historical development worldwide, there has been a demasculinization of the male figure in families.

Today’s women are stronger and more independent. So why would many of them, owning their own lives, destinies, and money, be seeking financially successful men? We could simply argue that many women seek men who are on the same level as them, and as they themselves are increasingly successful every day, this becomes more and more difficult. However, these women are not necessarily after the money itself, but rather the symbolic figure, what the money represents.

It is assumed that a financially successful man has worked hard and strived to succeed in life. And behind this assumption is the idea of a strong man who is capable of protecting and caring, which, however, does not always reflect the current reality. But this is what the vast majority of women today are actually looking for. They seek emotional security, as they already have financial security. Even though they are successful and financially independent, they want to feel protected, secure, and cared for. They want, even if only for moments, to allow themselves to be the weaker sex. They want to feel like women.

Yes, a man’s strength is not reflected in the size of his bank account. In fact, among the younger generation, this ideology is almost reversed. The “daddy’s boys” drive around in brand new cars, splurge on expensive drinks at clubs, and know little about education, about how to earn the money they spend, and even less about how to treat a woman and make her feel protected and cared for.

So, women, beware of labels and hasty judgments. Do not base yourselves on past standards to judge a current situation. Women have evolved, society has changed, and with it, all standards have transformed. Value a man for his ethical values, moral principles, and willingness to climb the steps of life on his own. These, indeed, will be protectors and will take care of you as you deserve.

Thais Clemente