Hug: The Nourishment of the Soul
Today is Hug Day and I’ve been reflecting on this small word with such a large meaning. A hug is essential on happy days we wish to celebrate. It would …
It is common for us to deny our vulnerability as a sign of strength, while we should discover our strength through the acceptance of our vulnerability.
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Commonly, when people think of psychotherapy, they imagine that they will lie on a couch while a psychotherapist intimidates them by taking notes on everything that is said. The aim is often thought to be digging deeper into experiences that were repressed in childhood and could provide insight into their current psychological conditions. This was indeed the way …
Family therapy is based on the idea that the family is a unique social system with its own structure and patterns of communication. These patterns are determined by various factors, including the values and beliefs of the parents, the personalities of all family members, and the influences of other relatives, such as grandparents, uncles, and aunts. As a result of these variables …
Couples therapy is a therapeutic process addressing parts of human relationships. It aims to recognize, better manage, and reconcile some differences and repetitive patterns that cause conflict in the relationship. We all know that romantic relationships are hard work. Just like cars, they need maintenance to keep running smoothly. If…
Supervision is considered the best form of professional development and enhancement for practitioners. In developed countries such as England and the United States, supervision is recommended for all professionals, regardless of their experience level. Supervision plays a mentoring role and provides direction, emotional support, and information for professionals…
“The role of the therapist is analogous to that of a mother,
who provides the child with a secure base from which to explore the world.”
John Bowlby, 1988
After graduating in July 2004 with a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the Federal University of Uberlândia (UFU), I embarked on a journey to find myself and the professional I aspired to be. I arrived in the United Kingdom in the end of 2004 and by 2005, I had already started my first postgraduate degree in clinical psychology at Birkbeck University of London. Over the course of nearly eleven years, I completed several postgraduate courses, attended numerous CPD courses and conferences, completed a Master’s degree from the University of Westminster (London) and ultimately a Doctorate in Counselling Psychology from Roehampton University (London).
With all this knowledge, I used my practice as the tool to consolidate my professional experience, opening the doors to various places where I worked. During more than ten years living in London, I had the privilege of working in well-known and recognized organizations such as the Maya Centre, The Haven Whitechapel, St Barts Hospital, Brent Bereavement Services (BBS), LAWRS (Latin American Women’s Rights Services), and Sybil Elgar School (National Autistic Society). In all these places, combined with continuous theoretical learning, I explored various fields including autism, severe depression, domestic violence, sexual crimes and child sexual abuse, the grieving process, female genital mutilation, post-traumatic stress, eating disorders, certain behavioural and personality disorders, as well as other issues (stress, identity crisis, sexuality, relationship issues, anxiety, low self-esteem, and others).
Currently, I work in a private practice, seeing individual clients, families and couples, and supervising professionals and students. Many of my sessions are face-to-face, but a significant number is conducted online.
“We are all personalities that grow and develop
as a result of all our experiences.”
Axline, 1971
“The psychologist looks at the foundations of the human soul,
at the structures that are essential
like the solid foundations of a house, and
are completely invisible when everything seems fine.”
H. Krystal
In England, the Professional Doctorate, in addition to the research component of a PhD, also includes professional development aspects. I opted to pursue a Professional Doctorate (5 years) despite its longer duration compared to a PhD (3 years), because of its theoretical approach which is expading in the USA and Europe, promising to be the future of psychotherapy worldwide.
The theoretical approach of the course, is one of the most recent and emerging models in contemporary psychotherapy. It has attracted the attention of professionals and researchers from around the world. I work with Integrative Relational Psychotherapy, based on theories of psychodynamics, psychoanalytic theories, humanistic, person-centered, and even cognitive-behavioral therapy. It is also an approach that emphasizes the need for therapists to know themselves and to constantly reflect on their professional practice.
Relational Psychoanalysis challenges the traditional, formal model with fixed ideas. With a relational focus, there arose an interest in the individuality and subjectivity of the human being (the subject), allowing therapy to go beyond mere interpretation. The relational approach considers the therapeutic alliance, and the interaction between therapist and client, not only as the most important part of the therapeutic process but also as the most effective tool and instrument of the process, regardless of theoretical orientation. Theorists have considered that the key to change is the therapeutic relationship itself.
Psychotherapy is always a challenge that the client may or may not choose to embrace. Facing our fears and problems can be very painful, but it will never be harder than going through life avoiding them. Psychotherapy requires commitment and willingness from the client, as the psychotherapist only acts as a facilitator in the process. The therapeutic relationship is based on mutual trust and respect, guided by the client’s developmental process. It is common for clients to feel vulnerable during the therapeutic process, thus it is crucial to understand that vulnerability is the only truly authentic state. Being vulnerable means being open to suffering, but also to pleasure. It means being open to life’s wounds, but also to its rewards and beauties. It is common to deny our vulnerability as a sign of strength, while we should discover our strength through the acceptance of our vulnerability.
“Life is not a straight and easy corridor
along which we walk freely without any obstacles.
Instead, it is a maze of passages,
through which we must seek our way,
lost and confused, now and then
finding ourselves at a dead end.
But always, if we have faith, a door will open for us.
Not necessarily one we always thought would open,
but one that ultimately proves to be the best.”
Spencer, 1998
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